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What a beautiful; story of the buckets - I hadnt heard it before.

I remember in the 6 months I spent at a meditation retreat many years ago we were told right at the beginning that asking for help rather than suffering, in our indoctrinated need to think we can always handle everything ourselves, be self sufficient, is the key energetically to deeper connection ....it takes humility and a refusal to listen to all those thoughts (which you refer to) which say you are strong, you can handle this, what will people think, they cant help me anyway etc We are so trained to think its nobler to continue to suffer and deal with that suffering alone and our minds have all the reasons ready as to why that is a good thing.

And its true that sharing the suffering, the act of asking for help, even with little things immediately creates connection, sabotages that belief that we are separate entities, and almost always people are glad to be asked; and it opens opportunities for people to be helpful, to be kind which generally they appreciate . So now I try to remember that I am doing other people a service, rather than being a nuisance and a whimp,

and just to say you can come and stay in my home in west cork any time you'd like a little time away from your responsibilities - we can have cheese on toast together ! xx

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